I attended the MENDS program back in 2014, while trying to navigate a traumatic relationship breakdown, significant loss of access to my two children, and a host of mental health challenges as a result.  I ended up doing the MENDS course twice, as the first time, I didn't really take it as seriously as I should have. I didn't do the work, and as a result, my gains were minimal, and I ended up right back where I started.  Owen was incredibly supportive and suggested that I re-do the course. I was not the first to suffer this fate (they call us 're-treads') and if I wanted to repeat the course, I could.

I was determined that my limited initial results would not be the case again, so the second time though, I took ownership of my own outcomes and did the work the course recommends.

It is this commitment to the program that has allowed me to really see the benefits.

I can categorically say that the skills I learned in the MENDS course not only saved my life, but have made me a better partner, father, and employee.

As a result of the MENDS program, I have become a better man.

The MENDS course has given me the tools and strategies to navigate some of the most stressful events of my life, including a drawn out, high conflict divorce, challenging parenting orders and even being made redundant (twice!).

The skills I learned in the MENDS course have set my current relationship onto an incredible trajectory: I have been with my new partner for almost 9 years, and both of us can honestly say we have each never felt more loved, supported, or valued in a relationship before. In my relationship, I use the skills I learned in the MENDS course every single day, and I would not have it any other way.

While raising kids who move between two houses in conflict has never been smooth sailing, the MENDS course has been instrumental in helping me aid both my children navigate the challenges of not only my divorce but also becoming part of a blended family. It has even helped me greatly in helping my kids chart a course through the normal challenges of their teenage years.

All in all, it has taken 10 years, but my relationship with my kids has never been stronger, and I have zero fear of "losing them" ever again.